Thursday, June 15, 2006

Anniversary Weekend



Thirty-four years! Love or sheer determination? Maybe a little bit of both — plus a lot of respect for each other and for those vows we took thirty-four years ago.

Having just spent a fortune on car repair, my husband and I might not do much celebrating on our special day. But it is not the celebration which matters. What matters is the relationship we have.

46 Comments:

At 6/15/2006 9:17 PM, Anonymous Mustang said...

Congratulations to you both; longivity is uncommon these days. Your time together underscores your commitment to one another and your willingness to put forth that effort needed to make your marriage last.

Semper Fi . . .

 
At 6/15/2006 10:19 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, AOW!!!! And may you and your husband together live happily ever after, although you will never be a fairytale-like princess...just a strong, hardworking, (*clears throat*) determined person.

~A.M.

 
At 6/15/2006 11:37 PM, Blogger MissingLink said...

My best wishes to You and Your husband.

Many more to come. ;-)

 
At 6/15/2006 11:47 PM, Blogger Mr. Beamish the Instablepundit said...

Wow!

That's me and my baby in 28 years :)

 
At 6/15/2006 11:49 PM, Blogger FLORIAN said...

Yes congratulations AOW! What a blessing that is! Do you realise how much of an accomplishment that is? INCREDIBLE!
God Bless

 
At 6/15/2006 11:57 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

You know what my anniversary present was... Happy Anniversary!

J.S.

 
At 6/16/2006 6:36 AM, Anonymous the merry widow said...

Congratulations to you both! Longevity in marriage is a tribute to hard work, taking vows seriously and especially G*D's grace! Enjoy each other, laugh, cry and arise go out and conquer the rest of your lives together!
Have you noticed couples who have been married a long time? Thier very actions are a running conversation, I hope you understand what I'm saying, Like a couple that Ben saw in a doctor's office, every movement was so well choreographed, they didn't have to say a word!
Good morning and G*D bless!

tmw

 
At 6/16/2006 6:58 AM, Blogger Always On Watch said...

A.M.,
Nobody ever said I was a princess. LOL.

J.S.,
My husband was duly impressed last night with your present. And did you learn a lesson about volunteering?

Mr. Beamish,
Just think, my husband and I have been married nearly as long as you've been alive. Now, that's scary!

Florian,
Yes, a blessing. But there are times when one has to look for the blessing. Not that the marriage has been so tough. But life happens, and sometimes things get hard. Disagreements are inevitable, of course. But the handling of those disagreements is what keeps a couple together.

Mustang,
Marriage is not a 50-50 proposition. It's a 100-100 proposition. I don't remember where I heard that, but I believe it's true. It's easier to throw in the towel during tough times than it is to hang in there. But neither my husband nor I have much respect for the easy road.

Missing Link,
Both my husband and I are stubborn. Sometimes tenacity is required to keep a relationship going. I'm left-brained, he's right-brained--strikes a sort of balance. Neither of us will ever fully understand how the other THINKS; the accepting realization of that different thinking became acceptable after about 11 years. We had plenty of arguments those first 11 years. I rather imagine that the neighbors were amused.

TMW,
Never discount God's grace and the power of prayer--as well as the ear of a good friend who will keep confidences.

Before my husband and I got married, my mother cautioned us as to saying ugly words to each other. Have we always watched our words? Of course not. We're human. But we've been careful not to say things like "What was I thinking of when I married you?" A walk to the woods in the back and a cooling-off period have great benefits in any relationship.

I know exactly what you mean by the choreography. My parents' relationship was like that!

As I see it, above all, honor those vows--especially the "cherish" one. The true meaning of "cherish" causes one to take certain actions and to omit others. For us, "cherish" has a lot to do with the Golden Rule, though that is not the whole picture.

 
At 6/16/2006 7:46 AM, Blogger kev said...

Congratulations to you both! Too bad the world can't learn the lessons of such a long, obviously happy relationship. My wife and I will be celebrating 28 this year. It's communication, mutual respect and compromise. I hope God continues to bless you.

 
At 6/16/2006 9:51 AM, Blogger Old Soldier said...

AOW, congratulations! My wife and I celebrated our 37th this past March. Neither you and your husband nor my wife and I are where we are because we took a cavalier apporach to marriage and our relationship. We truly believe in the words, "What God hath joined together, let no man put assunder." (It is also helpful to keep 1 Corinthians 13 in mind.)

May God continue to bless you both in your walk together.

 
At 6/16/2006 12:18 PM, Anonymous Debbie said...

Happy anniversary and many more. What a coincidence. My hubby and I will be married 34 years in September.

You are right, it takes biting your tongue sometimes, determination to make it work, true love.

It doesn't matter how you celebrate as long as you are together.

Happy Day!

 
At 6/16/2006 12:50 PM, Blogger eyesallaround said...

Congratulations! Lots of good advice in the "back and forth" discussion. I really laugh when moonbats say "We got a divorce. I just wasn't happy anymore." Duh.. Are you happy now? Eeee!

Have a wonderful Anniversary Day today.

PS Nice photo. I love roses.

 
At 6/16/2006 1:46 PM, Blogger Brooke said...

Congradulations, AoW!
People think marriage is so disposable anymore, it's great to hear someone that has been married for a long time. My hubby and I are coming up on seven years this September.

One of my moonbat faves is when they say "we fell out of love."

Huh? The initial infatuation has to grow into so much more, or else you were never in love to begin with. Also, it takes more than love sometimes to make a marriage work; stubborness, as AOW said, doesn't hurt!

 
At 6/16/2006 3:28 PM, Blogger WomanHonorThyself said...

Happy Happy AOW!!!!
g'head..enjoy yourselves!
u deserve it!!!
hugzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

 
At 6/16/2006 4:28 PM, Blogger Mark said...

Happy Anniversary, Always! Have a great celebration!

 
At 6/16/2006 4:28 PM, Blogger Mark said...

Happy Anniversary, Always! Have a great celebration!

 
At 6/16/2006 4:33 PM, Blogger nanc said...

how powerful! 34 years - that's almost THIRTY FIVE! that's staying power. i love it when people stay together and prove relationships are NOT disposable.

i love my husband ferociously even when i don't like him very much for a moment. God was very good to nanc when He gave him to me.

happy anniversary, aow, and many, many more.

 
At 6/16/2006 5:13 PM, Blogger Elmer's Brother said...

Congrats AoW! Here's to many more.

 
At 6/16/2006 5:43 PM, Blogger The WordSmith from Nantucket said...

Congratulations!

 
At 6/16/2006 6:36 PM, Blogger Elmer's Brother said...

Brooke - stubborness...something I'd rather refer to as determination

 
At 6/16/2006 7:35 PM, Blogger Freedomnow said...

Happy Anniversary and many more!!!

You dont need to spend outrageous amounts of money to celebrate your anniversary, you just need to be together, thats all that counts...

 
At 6/16/2006 9:10 PM, Blogger cube said...

Bravo and congratulations on this momentous occasion.

 
At 6/16/2006 9:12 PM, Blogger MissingLink said...

Just coming rom Beak's place.

Look after yourself AOW.
Get better soon.

 
At 6/16/2006 9:55 PM, Blogger Gayle said...

Congratulations, AOW! Not only to you, but to your husband as well. After all, it takes two!

It also takes both love and sheer determination and it ain't no rooky speaking here. My husband and I have been married since 1958. He was 18 and I was 17. That tells you what an old fart I am (but I'm in excellent physical condition, thank God).

We've had our ups and our downs, our spats (making up is fun) and we are still in love. I know you will be too! I'm so ecstatic whenever I hear of a marriage that has become what it's supposed to be... a marriage! YAY!

 
At 6/16/2006 10:48 PM, Blogger nanc said...

i must say "bravo" gayle - that is something else to celebrate!

 
At 6/16/2006 11:09 PM, Blogger City Troll said...

Happy Anniversary may you have many many more... the grizzly and I have 18

 
At 6/17/2006 7:10 AM, Blogger Always On Watch said...

Thank you for all the well wishes here!

My back troubles notwithstanding, my husband and I are heading out this morning for some time in the convertible for a day trip.

 
At 6/17/2006 1:52 PM, Blogger dag said...

I've meant for some time now to ask if you've read Jacques Barzun, The House of Intellect. It's a schoolteacher's dream.

By chance I came today, and now I get to congratulate you both on your anniversary.

Best wishes, Dag.

 
At 6/17/2006 2:05 PM, Blogger gandalf said...

well done I hope you have another 34 years together

 
At 6/17/2006 5:16 PM, Blogger benning said...

*HUGS!*

Congratulations! Well done! Enjoy! :D

 
At 6/17/2006 5:43 PM, Blogger The Truth Hurts said...

dittos!

 
At 6/17/2006 5:57 PM, Blogger Truth-Pain said...

Congrats!... I would ask you how you did it... but It way ruin my perfect sense of failed marriages :)

 
At 6/17/2006 7:40 PM, Blogger beakerkin said...

In an age of tempoary everything I salute a coulpe commited to the true nature of marraige. The notion that one could or should expect happiness from a spouse is silly. Happiness starts with each and everyone of us.

 
At 6/17/2006 8:45 PM, Blogger Always On Watch said...

We got back from our day-cruise a few hours ago. We're both a bit sunburned, but cruising the Blue Ridge was worth it! The view was unlimited, and we kept the top down until the temps rose too high.

Today was one of those days when we both loved and liked each other, a day to enjoy our life parnership.

Now we're back home. My husband is thumbing through his Mustang & Fast Fords Magazine, and I'm cruising the blogs. But at least we're in the same room. LOL.

I just love what Beak said: The notion that one could or should expect happiness from a spouse is silly. Happiness starts with each and everyone of us. Those words express one of the secrets about a marriage that lasts. But one must never take the relationship for granted, even after decades of being together. As I mentioned before, marriage is a 100-100 proposition.

 
At 6/17/2006 10:03 PM, Blogger WomanHonorThyself said...

Glad ya had a beautiful day together!..Keep keepin on!..:)

 
At 6/17/2006 10:39 PM, Blogger Mike's America said...

Congratulations!

 
At 6/18/2006 1:32 AM, Blogger MonicaR said...

Happy Anniversary!

 
At 6/18/2006 4:12 AM, Anonymous Spanish Eowyn said...

Congratulations!!!!

I see the trip went well. But it is even better that your matrimony has gone better!

I hope all of us are here to hear for your next 34 wedding anniversary! (that would be your 68 wedding anniversary ;) )

 
At 6/18/2006 9:41 AM, Blogger Pim's Ghost said...

Oh, congratulations!! It is becoming less frequent to see lasting marriages these days. I'm glad you two have made it!

 
At 6/18/2006 9:54 AM, Blogger Always On Watch said...

Spanish Eowyn,
I'll probably be to senile to blog in another 34 years--if I'm even living by then. But a nice thought on your part.

 
At 6/18/2006 1:25 PM, Blogger Esther said...

Mazel Tov to you both!!!!!!!!! You two are an awesome and fun couple. And to answer your question, no -- not longer than i've been alive, lol.

 
At 6/18/2006 4:02 PM, Blogger Elmer's Brother said...

AoW you didn't dring any wine on that cruise did you?

 
At 6/18/2006 4:19 PM, Blogger Always On Watch said...

EB,
No, I didn't have a drop on the cruise yesterday.

We passed by a lot of vineyards and wineries as that particular portion of Virginia is rife with them. They offer free taste-testing sessions, and I rather imagine that by 5:00 a lot of drunks are on the roads in those areas.

On our way home, we noticed a stretch-limo from one of the wineries. A woman in the back was waving at everyone. I guess that she was feeling no pain!

 
At 6/18/2006 9:11 PM, Anonymous the merry widow said...

AoW- Dr. Seamond's wrote a book called,"Happiness Is A Choice"! Beaker is right, you make your choices!
Glad you two had a wonderful time!

tmw

 
At 6/19/2006 12:54 AM, Blogger Pastorius said...

Congratulations to you and your husband, AOW.

Marriage is a blessing, and it is a learning experience in the Kingdom.

 
At 6/20/2006 3:32 PM, Blogger Jason_Pappas said...

Congrats to you and the lucky guy.

 

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